“Is that a Weave?” / “Duron is a Ghetto Name…” Dealing With Racialized Microagressions

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Microagressions + Racial Imagery:

21 Racial Microaggressions You Hear On A Daily Basis – Buzzfeed

An Examination of the African American Experience of Everyday Discrimination and Symptoms of Psychological Distress (PDF)

Ethnic Notions (documentary)

On Interpersonal Relations + Dealing with Anger / Stress

Salzberg, Sharon and Robert Thurman. Love Your Enemies: How to Break the Anger Habit and Be a Whole Lot Happier

Also good reads:

Ruiz, Don Miguel. The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom

Ruiz Jr., Don Miguel. Living a Life of Awareness: Daily Meditations on the Toltec Path

 

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“Not About” Ferguson.

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"Not About" Poetry Series / ACTing / ACTion / Art & Culture / In-Motion / Poetry / Policy / Uncategorized

*The below contains profanity

"Not About" Ferguson.

#HandsUp
#DontShoot
#IfTheyGunnedMeDown

All the fire and haze in a ball of a fist

#HandsUp
#DontShoot

I can feel the whisper on my neck
Yo talk
yo stench
yo legacy of unloving
careening down towards me in one
                                                        inch of a millisecond
#HandsUp
#DontShoot

You don't know my face,
my life

#HandsUp
#DontShoot

Memories
and aspiration run into one another with intention,
creating an identifiable froth bubbling round the edges of our lives
But our rivers don't run together.
You don't know my face.
All you know

are vile fables, 
delivered, 
with startling proficiency, to the orifices in yo eardrums

You know

that I have wings and a tail.

To ask me, condescendingly,
to calmly remove all manifestations of disavowal,
subjugation,
don't give a fuck

and ram that shit
all back into my psyche
The nerve of you.
To be so
insolently disrespectful
To allow that virulently indolent talk,
frozen in the form of a colorblind lozenge,
to form at the tip of your tongue and fly,
ever so gracefully to the roof of your mouth, 
straight out into the atmosphere,
where the Creator and its children can hear you, is committing a psychic crime.

Don't
come to me with words like
"unity"
"one"
or
my favorite two word chant,
"not about"

Let me tell you bout
"Not about."

"Not about"
mean
Forget
Forget

Forget

Mis-remember.

But I drink green juice and get good sleep so
I can't "not about."

We can't afford
"Not about."
We die
"Not about."

But our rivers don't run together.
You don't know my face.
All you know
are vile fables, delivered, with startling proficiency, to the orifices in yo eardrums

"Not about," when I think about it,
makes me laugh.
It is a deep roar emanating from the viscera of my spirit.
It is a din-clearing,
raucous,
cutting howl
that strangles all throats within reach.
"Not about."

Haha
Haha
Haha.

"Not about," when I really get down to the bones of it, makes me cry.
"Not about."

I'm not about
no double-talk
no con job

I'm not about
how you
equate biological aberrations
with me and the suns I've birthed

Cuz you gotta think that
if you think this
"Not about."

So I'm not gonna hold yo hand all the time
"Not about."
I wanna love all of us

deep into sunset
But on days like these,
when you tell me
"one love"
"peace"
"unity"
and
"Not about"
It becomes
bout you blind and I see.
You strut and my whole life is condensed into 
                                                                             furtive movements

"Not about," when I really get down to the bones of it, 
makes me cry.
I can't "not about."
We can't afford
"Not about."
We die
"Not about."


(2014)

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On #BlackFriday:

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Originally posted to Facebook on 11/26/14:

I find it troubling / strange / disheartening that we’re shutting people’s suggestions down for change. I think a lot of the resistance to the whole Black Friday thing is that people just don’t want to go out of their way and try to shop at black-owned businesses long-term. If that’s the case, be honest. (The resistance is understandable–it would be tough, not to mention possibly more expensive.) Don’t shoot other people’s ideas down, though. I mean, if you have another idea, that’s great, but share it. We don’t have to agree about how to make change. But being an idea-killer is the worst thing you could be. ESPECIALLY RIGHT NOW. Don’t cut down other people’s ingenuity right now. That’s what we do. WE MAKE WAYS. ‪#‎wayouttanoway‬

The Wrap Life

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Hey Fran Hey recently posted a list of black-owned businesses that we should support. Many of the people on the list are black female entrepreneurs :-) See her list here.

I visited The Wrap Life and recently got this bright scarf. Not only am I happy to support a creative black lady, but I also feel, on some cosmic level (…or perhaps a romanticized level) that I’m connected to my African roots.

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