1. Say a prayer or phrase that motivates, inspires, or calms you upon rising and before going to bed. You can create one yourself, get it from a book you like, or search the interwebs.
2. Try to stop moving in a rushed manner. Train coming but you’re far away? Let it go. Meditation helps to develop patience, as well as a general sense of calmness.
3. Root out your anger. When someone does something you don’t like, ask yourself why you are angry. More often than not, it is because you feel slighted. Sometimes, the other person doesn’t even know they’ve upset you. Give people the benefit of the doubt before you get mad.
4. Share something positive or uplifting with another person every day. It can be a quote, prayer, or even a smile.
5. Practice being kind. I’ve found that a lot of my foul moods are entirely subject to change based on how I respond. Even if I feel that someone else is being rotten. Just do the work on your end. It really makes a difference.
6. Eat whole foods. Nutritious foods for emotional health? –yep! Whole foods, particularly whole fruits and vegetables, can make you feel better.
7. “Hack away at the unessential.” This is from Bruce Lee. You’ll be surprised at how much more time you have, and how easier you’ll have it when you start cutting out superfluous things. Can’t go to bed early enough because of a show you’ve got to watch? Ask yourself how important it is. Is it important enough for you to wake up late and throw off your whole schedule? Important enough to zap your energy for tomorrow’s workout? Generally, the answer will be no.
8. Move your body. Take a walk, practice yoga, punch a bag–you’ll feel empowered, capable, and more confident.
9. Read a piece of fiction every day. It’s not necessary to read a whole book (unless you want to). It will inspire you and open up your right-brained, creative self. It may help you dream–we all need more whimsy, in our lives, don’t we?
10. Practice wishing everyone a life filled with love and ease. Say a few words while you commute, out taking a walk, or on a lunch break. Make this habitual.
11. Become other-obsessed, as opposed to self-obsessed. We live in a “me-first” individualistic society (Western society, in particular, facilitates this mindset) and we’re always trying to make ourselves “better”–thinner, stronger, healthier–and none of this is necessarily bad–unless you use your new-found gift for yourself. Self-improvement should ultimately extend to the people around you. You should want to be better so that you can help other people be better. Because we should see ourselves in other people.
12. Before you talk about someone else, ask yourself: “Will I be uniting or severing?” If what you say will damage or further damage the relationship, think about not saying it. Our words have power, and our words can unite us, and help us see ourselves in each other, or they can deepen the chasm that prevents us from practicing empathy.
13. Get okay with being sad or frustrated. Such is life! Tell yourself: “This is not negative or positive. It just is.” Adversity makes your soul stronger. You’re still alive, aren’t you? Then you still have work to do!
Try these things for awhile, and let me know how it goes!
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